I left her and our two kids, by then both teenagers, two years ago. I met another woman six months later. She’s 37. We got on great.

I was my happiest ever and we moved in together. But I felt guilty about my family, especially my sons, so I left my girlfriend and eventually moved back home before Christmas. My girlfriend was devastated.

My family are happy I’m back – at least the boys are – but I feel so devalued and hurt all over again.

I’ve tried to tell my wife what is making me so unhappy but she seems unable to change and I miss my girlfriend so much.

DEIDRE SAYS: There are downsides to staying and leaving.