Have you ever wondered why you feel a sudden rush of excitement whenever you’re standing naked under the full gaze of your partner or someone, you’re about to get intimate with? Well, it turns out that you just might be an exhibitionist.

Indigo Stray Conger, a certified sex therapist, explains exhibitionism as when an individual experiences a high level of sexual excitement from the fantasy or actuality of being observed naked or engaging in sexual activity. It’s important to know that this consensual fantasy is a lot different from the exhibitionistic disorder, which is a mental health condition and often involves non-consensual exposure to strangers.

However, healthy and consensual exhibitionism is a huge sexual positive and can be a great way to spice up your sexual life. In fact, the desire to be watched by others during sexual activity is an extremely common fetish and is the reason why many people fantasize about engaging in public sex, said Zhana Vrangalova, a professor of human sexuality at New York University.

“Most of us have at least a little bit of an exhibitionist streak in us: This, like anything else in psychology, exists on a spectrum, and it is perfectly normal and healthy,” said Vrangalova in a study.

Though exploring your exhibitionist side is less common in reality, there are different ways to still engage in it. With a live sex cam, you can get comfortable being watched engaging in several sexual acts such as masturbation. In fact, one great tip to explore your exhibitionist side better is engaging in mutual masturbation where both partners masturbate at the same time, enjoying both the self-pleasure and the thrill of watching themselves jack off.

It is also great to start your journey into exhibitionism in the realm of fantasy before delving into the real thing.

Before getting started, you can have an open and honest conversation about what you would like when it comes to your exploration of exhibitionism—and this is a lot easier to do with a sexual partner or a sex cam model.

“Talk about what sex would be like if others were watching. Discuss different scenarios and what would be most arousing,” said Conger. “Then bring those fantasies into the bedroom while having sex, imagining that what you have already talked about is actually playing out.”

During your session with a cam model, you should spice things up by adding some sexy clothing or even some elements of striptease by taking off each other’s clothes. Let your clothes bring out the sexiest parts of your body, through different types of role-playing. The most important thing is to feel sexy in whatever you’re wearing, said Carol Queen, a certified sexologist.

If you’re looking to experience the thrill of exhibitionism, it’s necessary to keep the room brightly lit and put on an exciting show. It is a lot harder to enjoy watching an exhibitionist or exploring it yourself in the dark, therefore, it is always recommended that you keep the lights on.

Be very expressive with your action and constantly engage your partner. You can tell them to keep their eyes on you, move around the room erotically and be a good tease. Be sure to put on a nice erotic show for your partner and masturbation is always a great way to heighten the whole experience.

Just like voyeurism, exhibitionism is quite similar and just two sides of the same coin. While voyeurism is getting aroused from watching others naked or engaging in sexual activity, exhibitionism is being aroused by the possibility of being seen naked or engaging in sexual activity by others.

But like with voyeurism, the key to exhibitionism is consent for this fantasy to be both legal and enjoyable. A lot of our fantasies are mostly trapped in our minds and with the help of sex cam models, it a much easier to explore these fantasies safely, even if you’re not ready to do so with your partner in reality.