Going on a first date is often nerve-racking. But going on a first-date during the pandemic can be especially so.

On top of all the usual things to worry about — like, if they like you and if you like them — now you also have to deal with certain challenges, such as whether you should meet virtually or in person.

“These are less-than-ideal circumstances to meet strangers, to put your best foot forward, to enter situations with, at times, forced positivity,” says Sabrina Romanoff, PsyD, a clinical psychologist in New York City.

It’s tough to feel fun and flirty during these unprecedented times, she adds.

If you feel anxious, know you aren’t alone

“It’s cold, it’s winter, and we’re still in the middle of a pandemic,” says Beth Ribarsky, PhD, an associate professor at the University of Illinois Springfield and an expert in dating and sexual communication.

“That’s rationale enough to be stressed. It’s incredibly important to normalize that it’s okay to not feel okay all the time.”

The important thing, she says, is to be honest with yourself.

Are you dealing with general dating anxiety? Or is your anxiety caused by feeling unsafe about dating right now?

If it’s the latter, remember that it’s okay to wait until you feel comfortable.

“There’s no rush,” says Tammy Shaklee, a relationship expert, LGBTQ matchmaker, and president of the dating service H4M. “Preparing to date may be the only step you need to take right now.”

That said, “dating — when approached with a healthy mindset, including intentional goals — can definitely boost your mental health,” says Carla Marie Manly, PhD, a clinical psychologist in Santa Rosa, California.

“Those who are lonely and feeling depressed often feel much better when they reach out to date virtually or in person,” Manly adds.

Some people find that they withdraw when feeling lonely, which can create a negative feedback loop that contributes to depression.

“Watching Netflix or scrolling through social media may feel good in the moment, but it won’t break you out of the loneliness cycle,” Romanoff says.

First things first: Make sure you feel like your best self 

Start by getting ready in a way that makes you feel mentally ready and confident.

For some people, this might mean ordering clothes they know they’ll feel good in or trying out new makeup.

For others, it might mean engaging in a self-care ritual, so they feel more relaxed and less nervous about the idea of putting themselves out there.

Next, decide what kind of dating you’re comfortable with

In other words: location, location, location.

Are you open to dating in person, or do you prefer to keep it all virtual for now?

“All decisions involve a cost-benefit analysis,” Romanoff says. “Do the risks outweigh the rewards in meeting this person? Only you can decide. You’re in charge of your own safety.”

Many experts agree it might be best to start with a virtual date

“Dating virtually allows you to get to know the other person on a more intimate and emotional level,” says Patricia Valencia, a licensed mental health counselor in New York City and chief operating officer of Refresh Psychotherapy.

“It also allows you to observe their health and health practices from a distance while you decide if you want to meet in person,” Valencia says.

Keeping it virtual might also help you relax.

“If you find yourself anxious and stressed out by the idea of going out and meeting someone, you aren’t going to enjoy the date,” Ribarsky says.

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